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Abuse Cover-Up In The Boy Scouts
Santa Barbara Boy Scouts finally hand evidence of the abuse of a child to the police. Joanna Schroeder insists this is five years too late. Last week, The Los Angeles Times reported about a cover-up...
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Hidden Ashes: A Male Survivor’s Fear of Men
Men who are afraid of other men: you are not alone. Trigger note: This essay contains descriptions of child abuse. This was previously published on As Ashes Scatter. “The primal aspect of male power...
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“My deepest thanks to the Sandusky accusers most, and also to everyone else...
This is a comment by W.R.R. on the post “Viral Thank-You Letter to the Sandusky Survivors“. “My deepest thanks to the accusers most, and then to the other witnesses, the prosecution, judge,...
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“When I talk to other survivors, I say ‘It was too much ugliness for me too,...
This is a comment by Rob on the post “The Sandusky Verdict: Stepping Out of the Shame“. “When I’m close enough to someone (adult), or have social license enough to discuss the topic as a survivor, I...
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“When you guilt men for not sacrificing themselves, their survivor’s guilt...
This is a comment by Monkey on the post “Bill Bennett Uses Aurora Shooting To Reinforce Own Bullshit Ideas Of Gender“. “That’s interesting about Jesse Childress. What I find troubling is the...
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Delivered from Abortion: Healing a Forgotten Memory
“Did Mother ever tell you about the time she was going to abort you?” my sister asked casually. Late in the fall of 1943, as Nazi submarines terrorized Allied shipping, a young Navy officer and his...
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Surviving a Death Sentence: 27 Years With HIV
When you prepare for death and it doesn’t come, you’re left asking, “Why me?” The recent international AIDS conference, held in Washington, D.C., brought together nearly 24,000 participants, all of...
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Tell Your Story: What Have You Overcome?
Strength in Story is looking for men’s stories of adversity and recovery. Strength in Story is a collaborative, participatory project to bring together a wide variety of stories from ordinary people...
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The Power of the Personal in Politics
With our voices united we could turn stories from male survivors of childhood sexual abuse into action. In the late 1960s and early 1970s, the phrase “the personal is political” became the mantra of...
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Men Who were Abused as Boys
By reducing those who sexually abuse men and boys to “Sanduskys”, we put a generic face on a very real problem. Men who were abused as boys were abused by individuals, not by a caricature. I find it...
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Project Unspoken: You’re not just a victim. You’re a survivor.
♦◊♦ Soonsung Park sent me this video in response to posting Trey Malone’s suicide note with the following message: “This is a video created by the students in Emory to raise awareness of sexual...
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Fierce Resistance
Why do we continue to blame the victims of sexual assault? Editor’s Note: The following contains descriptions of sexual violence. Whenever I hear someone state there are options for women when they...
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“Survivors will be angry for as long as is necessary. Telling them to forgive...
This is a comment by Mike on the post “Some Thoughts on Forgiveness“. Mike said: As someone who has worked through a lot of these issues, here is my perspective. For a long time I was very angry with...
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How I Stopped Being an Angry Feminist, and Started Loving Men
Sarah Beaulieu wants us to stop talking about the things men do wrong, and start talking about all the things men do right. I certainly had a lot of reasons to be angry. I was sexually assaulted. By a...
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Secondary Survivors
For those that love us and are aware of our past: the other survivors of abuse. My friend Steve introduced me to the term, Secondary Survivor. Those two words say it well for those of us who have...
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My Dinner with Fellow Bomb Victim Survivors
Lisa Hickey, at a dinner for victims injured in the Boston Marathon bombings, realizes once again the importance of the stories we tell. — When I first received the invitation to the dinner put on...
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Knowing Your Offender, Navigating Your Healing Path
Randy Ellis explains the psychological grooming recalled by many survivors to have been used by their abusers to create a false sense of relationship. As adults, survivors struggle with the grief,...
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Widening the Lens on Gender and Violence
Peter Pollard, the Training and Outreach Director for 1in6, sends us a hopeful message for the future of male trauma informed awareness initiatives and response systems. He reminds us where we were...
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Domestic Violence Campaign Seeks Letters
A writing campaign asks domestic violence survivors and their supporters to submit letters From Lexie Bean, Founder and Creative Director of Attention: People with Body Parts: With the perception that...
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Waiting To Be Found
Abuse survivor David Pittman explains how the loneliest feeling in the world is waiting to be found. - As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA), I have been searching for sometime to figure out a...
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